Couples & Marriage Counseling

relationship counseling

Couples & Marriage Counselor

Amy Runcorn, LAPC

Generalist Counselor & Couples Counselor

7014787199


I specialize in marriage and couples counseling. Also, I offer counseling services for general anxiety and depression concerns.

I am relationally minded and provide a compassionate and collaborative approach to counseling. I’ll hold a soft space for difficult conversations. We will use humor, skills, and relational presence to get you on your way to a better place.

I respect each individual’s unique process and experiences. I value a strong therapeutic alliance and collaborate on plans to help facilitate personal insight, connection, and healing.

I am a Ph.D. student in counselor education and supervision at NDSU.

MY EXPERIENCE

Licensed Associate Professional Counselor (LAPC)
National Certified Counselor (NCC)

COST CONSIDERATIONS

At this time, I only accept private-pay. My rate is $150.00 for initial and $120.00 for returning sessions.

MY AREA OF FOCUS

* Relational Attachment and Couples Counseling
* Cognitive-Behavioral-Emotional Therapy
* Men’s Emotional Health
* Fatherhood/Motherhood

Hello! My name is Amy. I bring a unique set of skills to the counseling relationship. I come from a business and law enforcement family. I understand the demands of high-performance individuals and couples. Your mental health and relational health is a priority! What's the point of all your success if you don't have a good relationship with yourself or your life partner?

Relationships: Common Intimacy & Attachment Concerns

Establishing Your Relationship:

Selecting a Partner vs Being Selected

This is the dating phase of the relationship. When younger, we’re not always sure of the building blocks we want so we’re more likely to select a partner based on attraction, chemistry, or past traumas.

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How well do I understand the building blocks of a healthy relationship? What kind of relationship do I want?

What am I looking for in a spouse or life partner?

Does this person offer me the resources I need to feel supported and safe?

Do I enjoy my person?

Do we want the same things?

Am I bringing unresolved trauma into this relationship? If yes, why?

During First Year:

Managing Expectations vs Fantasy

The First Year is the time after marriage, commitment or a major investment like purchasing a home together.

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Now that I see the real you, do I still want to be with you?

Now that you see the real me, do you still love me?

How do we manage our expectations?

How will I meet the needs not fulfilled by the relationship?

How will you meet the needs that I can’t reconcile for you?

Are we able to differentiate?

How are our personalities different? Does this impact the way I experience you as my spouse/partner?

Can we be honest with each other?

Year 1-4 :

Conflict Resolution vs Unresolved Conflict

According to the Gottman Institute, a research-based approach to relationships, most couples separate during year 1-4 because of poor conflict resolution skills. They simply can’t resolve problems, simple or perpetual, together. They begin to lean on friends and family outside the relationship, who encourage the pattern to continue. Or, they encourage separation. Either way, the couple does not improve conflict resolution skills.

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Do you hear, validate, and understand me during a conflict?

Do I hear, validate, and understand you during a conflict?

Do we have the skills to disagree well? Understand each other’s needs?

Is our relationship stronger or more vulnerable after a conflict?

Longterm Investment:

Staying Connected vs Growing Apart

This is the phase that begins between the fifth and tenth year in the relationship. You’re settled in and bonded to each other. Healthy couples stay curious about their partner’s individual needs.

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Have my priorities changed since the beginning of the relationship?

Have my partner’s priorities changed since the beginning of the relationship?

Do we communicate basic thoughts and feelings to each other daily?

Have we stopped asking each other questions? Or being curious?

Are we too patterned, or do we challenge each other?

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Selecting a couples counselor is an important decision.

Living with anxiety or depression adds unique stress to a relationship. Often the impact of living with one of these conditions is overlooked in couples counseling. At Conscious Living Counseling & Education Center, our counselors are trained in both marriage/couples counseling and individual therapy.

Relationship counseling services are provided for heterosexual, same-sex, married, and committed couples. All couples therapists at the counseling center have completed Level I and Level II clinical training from the Gottman Institute.

Couple and Marriage Counseling

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